[singlepic id=80 w=320 h=240 float=right]LGBT-inclusive advertising (which depicts same-sex couplehood either in images or words) among mainstream advertisers is a rare thing, indeed. This is part of my series to document companies who market a product or service meant for the general population but with an ad that targets, focuses on or includes the LGBT community.


[singlepic id=77 w=320 h=240 float=right]LGBT-inclusive advertising (which depicts same-sex couplehood either in images or words) among mainstream advertisers is a rare thing, indeed. This is part of my series to document companies who market a product or service meant for the general population but with an ad that targets, focuses on or includes the LGBT community.


[singlepic id=75 w=320 h=240 float=right]LGBT-inclusive advertising (which depicts same-sex couplehood either in images or words) among mainstream advertisers is a rare thing, indeed. This is part of my series to document companies who market a product or service meant for the general population but with an ad that targets, focuses on or includes the LGBT community.


Paul Newman died today from complications of cancer. He was 83. He also was an Oscar-winning actor, a philanthropist, a Democrat (he was a delegate to the 1968 convention in Chicago) and a Grade-A Hollywood Hunk.

This past summer one of the classic movie channel was playing the 1958 film Long Hot Summer while I was reading a book. I looked up and saw one of the most gorgeous men I’ve ever seen. Of course it was 33-year-old Paul Newman oozing sex appeal right out of the big-screen TV.

Most of us alive today – if we know him – only know him as an elderly actor or as the guy who sells salad dressing at the local Safeway or Kroger store.

But, as attested by the photos below. He also was a hottie in his day.

Been putting this off for a couple years … but anything to keep from reading my Evidence case book.

Who Are You?

What is your full name as it appears on you birth certificate:

  • David Alan Speakman

What do you like to be called:

  • David

What are your nicknames:

  • Davodd

What is your alias? (Middle name, street you grew up on):

  • Alan Clearview

What’s your stripper/drag queen name? (Name of first pet, mother’s maiden name):

  • Pepper Herron

What’s your Mobster Nickname:

  • The Coin Operator

What’s your Star Wars Nickname:

  • Davsp Hefor, Nambui of Loratadine

What’s your Spell Check name (words that replace your name in spell check):

  • Devoid Specimen

Number of candles that appeared on your last birthday cake:

  • 40

Date you were born:

  • Feb. 4, 1968 (2-4-68)

What’s your Sun sign:

  • Aquarius

What’s your Moon sign:

  • Aries

What’s your Constellation Rising:

  • Scorpio

Notable Events on the Day You Were Born:

  • Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. gave his “Drum Major Instinct” speech where he predicted his own death and gave instructions for his funeral.
  • Clergy and Laymen Concerned about Vietnam accuse the U.S. of war crimes in Vietnam

Parent’s names:

  • Father: James Donald Speakman
  • Mother: Sandra Kay Herron


  • Fort Wayne, Indiana


  • Churubusco, Indiana

Current Residence:

  • Mountain View, California


  • 6’1″

Eye color:

  • Turquoise

Hair color:

  • Brown


  • None


  • None

What’s your most attractive feature:

  • Eyes


  • Joey, dog – Golden Retriever/Daschund mix (Animal shelter rescue)
  • Boris, cat – Brown tuxedo tabby/rag doll (Animal shelter rescue)
  • Taffy, cat -Miniature bob-tail black tuxedo (stray rescue)
  • Toby, cat – Cappuccino-brown (stray rescue)

What are the perks of your job:

  • Casual dress (rare in law offices)
  • Great boss
  • Time flexible to accommodate law school

How much do you love your job:

  • Well, I’m going to night law school – so I’m looking for a change.

Are you an inside or outdoors person?

  • Indoors. I’m allergic to pollen.

Do you have children?

  • No. But I helped raise a step kid for the first couple years of my relationship with Rich.

What Laundry detergent do you use?

  • Tide

What color is your underwear:

  • Plaid

Color of socks:

  • I’m barefoot as I type this (usually white)

What color is your bedroom’s carpet:

  • Beige (soon to be torn up and replaced with hardwood)

What color is your bedroom:

  • Bordello Burgundy

What color is your bathroom:

  • Guest Bathroom: Dark Sage.
  • Master Bathroom: Light Sage

What did you want to be when you were little?

  • Doctor.

Favorite childhood memory:

  • Long hot lazy summers in rural Indiana.

When Was The Last Time You:

Took a shower:

  • Yesterday. I’m writing this in my bathrobe before I have gotten ready for the day.


  • A few months ago.

Received flowers and from whom:

  • 6 years ago, from Rich. I immediately put them outside because I was allergic to them.

Watched Bambi:

  • More than 30 years ago.


  • I don;t remember. Sometimes I tear up during sad movies or TV shows. But It’s been years since I had a good cry.

Got a real letter:

  • A couple days ago. I work in a law office. I get real paper-in-envelope stamped U.S. mail letters all the time.

Gave to charity:

  • Well, since my Law School is officially a non-profit – I gave last month when I paid tuition.

What did you have for breakfast?

  • A Diet Coke.

What was the last book you read:

  • Darwinia by Robert Charles Wilson

What was the last CD you bought:

  • Celtic Christmas (Dec. 2007)

What was the last movie you saw:

  • Lost Boys 2 (Wow bad)

What will be the next CD you buy: I don’t know.

Do you play the lottery:

  • No. I have a moral thing against lotteries – they are a tax on the poor.

Ever win?

  • Once I was given a lottery ticket with my paycheck when I worked for WPTA-TV in Fort Wayne. I gave it away – it won $25 dollars.

From whom did you get your last e-mail?

Last person you went to dinner with?

  • Phillip Rose, Law School study partner

What are you listening to right now?

  • The combined fans of my computer and our server

Best thing that happened to you today:

  • Slept in

Any new and exciting news you’d like to share with everyone?

  • Rich’s new job/career path starts on Monday.

What is Your Favorite:

  • Flavor: French Vanilla
  • Breakfast cereal: Archer Farms (Target Brand) Blueberry Granola With Flax
  • Candy: Reese’s peanut butter cups, Peanut Butter Twix
  • Salad Dressing: Honey Mustard
  • Food: Butter Chicken
  • Cuisine: Indian.
  • Breakfast Food: French Toast with melted peanut butter between the slices with maple syrup and lots of butter.
  • Pie: Blueberry
  • Lunch: In-N-Out Double Double, Animal Style with Animal Fries.
  • Alcoholic beverage: LIIT
  • Type of Ice: None.
  • Your favorite potato chip? Ruffles All Dressed chips (only available in Canada)
  • Favorite sandwich? Sliced chicken breast with pesto, sun dried tomatoes, fresh spinach, tomato slices and a slice of provolone cheese on focaccia brad – toasted open face until the cheese starts to melt. (Nom nom nom…)
  • Ice cream: Homemade French Vanilla/Almond
  • Sobe flavor: Energy
  • Soda: Diet Cherry Coke
  • Restaurant: Temptations
  • Fast Food Restaurant: IN-N-Out
  • Toothpaste: Colgate Fresh Mint
  • Deodorant: Anthony for Men Logistics Alcohol Free, Hugo
  • Shampoo or conditioner: Anthony Every Day, Neutrogena T-Gel
  • Perfume/cologne: Hugo
  • Type of Underwear: Depends on the day and occasion and comfort level needed.
  • Shoes: Merrell lace-ups, Sketchers, Vans
  • Accessory: One 6 mm platinum (PLAT) wedding band (pipe cut).
  • Possession: My car.
  • Clothes: My “Kill All Humans” red t-Shirt
  • Favorite brand of clothing? Clearance rack.
  • Color: Green
  • Number: 4
  • Stone: Pakistan green marble
  • Holiday: Labor Day
  • Day of the week: Friday
  • Favorite time of day? Late at night when everyone has gone to bed and I have alone time as the world is quiet.
  • Flower: Osteopermums – especially the sherbet orange ones with purple centers
  • Smell: Fresh Rosemary
  • Grade: Junior year at Ball State
  • Subject in school: English.
  • Teacher: Judge Weissbrodt from Contracts class in law school
  • Birthday Present Ever: Blu-Ray DVD burner
  • Fairy tale: Hansel and Gretel
  • Poem(s): Beowulf
  • Type of music: melodic and electronic rock, trance, lounge.
  • Song(s): Albums – Depeche Mode Violator, New Order Substance, Lost Boys Soundtrack
  • Song you love but are embarrassed to admit to: Top of the World by The Carpenters
  • Christmas Carol: Carol of the Bells http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSlMOzaZLnM
  • Movie:
    – SF:
    Blade Runner
    – Fantasy: Lord of the Rings Trilogy
    Dark Fantasy: Hellraiser, Candyman (tie)
    – Horror: Alien
    – Chick Flick: Steel Magnolias
    – Cult: Desperate Living
    Comedy: Young Frankenstein
    – Drama: Sophie’s Choice
    Classic Drama: Citizen Kane
    Dark Comedy: Dangerous Liaisons
    Thriller: Manchurian Candidate (original)
  • TV show: Heroes, Battlestar Galactica, Supernatural, House
  • TV star: Ben Browder, Jamie Bamber, Jensen Ackles, Jeffrey Dean Morgan
  • Magazine: Weird Tales, The Week
  • Celebrity: Clive Owen
  • Super Hero: Green Lantern
  • Fraggle: Mokey
  • Sesame Street Character: Grover
  • Zoo Exhibit: African Journey at the Fort Wayne Zoo
  • Favorite sport to watch on TV: Men’s Water polo, Olympic Men’s Greco-Roman Wrestling, Men’s Gymnastics, Men’s swimming events.
  • Sport to Watch at the game: College basketball
  • Sports team: Ball State Cardinals
  • Car: Atomic Blue Honda Element LX
  • Web Site: http://www.fandominion.com
  • Amusement Park Ride: The Mantis – Cedar Point

What do you want for Christmas:

If you were stranded on a desert island what book, album, and video would you want with you:

  • Book: The complete Darkover Series
  • Album: Depeche Mode Violator
  • Video: Rich and My wedding

Which store would you choose to max your credit card:

  • Target

If you could be any age, past, present, or future, what would it be:

  • 28

If you could live in any decade in history, what would it be:

  • Now. Being gay in the past was bad. This is pretty much the best time in history to be gay.

What childhood toy do you wish you still had:

  • Tinker Toys

What movie makes you cry:

  • First: Old Yeller
  • Most Recent: Brokeback Mountain

What appliance could you not live without:

  • Internet-enabled Computer.

Your lucky charm:

  • A little piece of paper with Trin’s phone number on it from 1995.

The person you worship the most:

  • Mark Twain

Your bedroom is like:

  • A cave.

Favorite Places

Place to live: Mountain View

Town to chill in/ Vacation spot: Montreal, Chicago

Place to retire: Don’t plan on retiring. I plan on working at something I enjoy until I drop dead.

Places you want to see but haven’t:

  • New Zealand
  • Hawaii
  • My family’s ancestral castles in Scotland, England and Wales

What is Your Least Favorite:

  • Food: Raspberries. Blech.
  • Cuisine: Sushi.
  • School Subject: Math,
  • The worst song you ever heard: Thong Song
  • Most embarrassing CD in your collection: Merry Christmas With Love by Clay Aiken
  • Characteristic: Dishonesty

Which Is Better:

  • Hot tubs or pools: Pools.
  • Diamonds or pearls? Diamonds, because of their industrial uses.
  • TV or radio: Tie.
  • Short or tall: Tall.
  • Toilet paper over or underhand: Over.
  • Coke or Pepsi:
    – Pepsi (with sugar)
    – Diet Coke (without sugar)
  • Sprite or 7 Up: 7 Up
  • Coffee or Coffee Ice Cream: I hate the taste of coffee. Neither.
  • Creamy or crunchy peanut butter: Both.
  • Croutons or Bacon Bits: Croutons.

What’s the right way to eat a Reese’s:

  • Bite, Chew, Savor flavor, swallow. Repeat as necessary.

Does cheese go on the bumpy or flat side of the Ritz:

  • Bumpy

White or brown bread:

  • Brown

Beavers or ducks?

  • Ducks.

Beatles or Elvis:

  • Beatles

Who are the most attractive male and female celebrities:

  • Male: Clive Owen
  • Female: Angelina Jolie

Are you a morning person or a night owl?

  • Night Owl

Disney or Warner Brothers:

  • Disney

Pedicure or manicure? Both

What first catches your eye in the opposite (or same) sex (ie, legs, boobs, etc):

  • Hands

What do you look for in a person:

  • Humor, Positive attitude, Personality, Childlike wonder

If you could be any place right now, where would you choose:

  • Having a week-long vacation with Rich in Montreal all expenses paid.

Are you a dog or a cat person:

  • Cat person.

Razor, cream, or wax:

  • Razor – but only when I have to.

Plane, train, or automobile:

  • Car.

Car or SUV:

  • Small SUV

Lake, Ocean or River:

  • Lake

2 doors or 4 (on a car):

  • 4

Childhood Blanket or Stuffed Animal:

  • Blanket

One pillow or two:

  • One very thin pillow.

Which came first; the chicken or the egg?

  • Egg.

Do You Believe In…

  • Horoscopes: No.
  • Past lives: No.
  • Ouija boards: Yes, I believe they exist. But no, they are not a portal to the spirit world.
  • Love at first sight: If you asked me before I met Rich, I would have said no.
  • God: No.
  • Religion: See my answer to Ouija boards.
  • Aliens: Yes.
  • Ghosts: No.
  • Evil: As a separate force in the universe? No. But I think people can act evilly.
  • Abortion: I believe the government should keep their hands off women’s uteruses.
  • Alternative music: Liked it in the 1980s and 1990s.
  • Do you love yourself: Yes.
  • Does life have a meaning: Yes.
  • Do you know what it is: To survive as long as possible.
  • Is honesty the best policy: Not if you want people to like you.
  • Are you the jealous type: Occasionally when I am feeling insecure.
  • What’s your pet peeve: religion used as a weapon to attack others.
  • What are you afraid of: Pain.
  • Forgive and forget or hold a grudge: With only those choices – Grudges, otherwise you don’t learn from the past.
  • Where do you see yourself in 10 years: Lawyer and writer.
  • Most annoying thing is: Religious zealotry.
  • What is your motto: A witty saying proves nothing.
  • Who do you look up to: Any being or issue or obstacle that challenges me to be a better person.
  • Life Statement: This is it – there are no second chances or do-overs.

What Stuff Do You Do?

  • What kind of work do you do: Writer/Paralegal/Law Student
  • Do you cleanse your chakras: Not since I took Yoga in college.
  • What are you listening to right now: The hum of the fans of my home computer and the server.
  • What is your favorite solitary activity: Surfing the Internet.
  • What do you do most often when you are bored: Blog.
  • Word or phrases you overuse: “Actual”
  • Hobbies: Fandominion.com, watching movies
  • Bedtime: 3 a.m.

Have You Ever…

  • What was the name of your first best friend: Scott LaBundy
  • What was the name of your summer camp: never went.
  • Do you remember the camp song:
  • Been toilet-papering: Yes.
  • Been Ding-dong-ditching: No.
  • Been toilet-papered: Yes.
  • What was your first job: Freelance High School sports photographer for local newspaper
  • How many times did you fail your permit or driver’s test: 0
  • How old were you when you had your first kiss: 16
  • Most romantic thing that ever happened to you: Rich and I drove to San Francisco and stood in line for two days in the rain to get married in 2004.
  • How many people have you kissed romantically: Don’t remember.
  • Can you remember all of their names: No.
  • Been in love before: Yes.
  • How many times: Five times.
  • Dumper or Dumpee: Equal.
  • Loved somebody so much it made you cry: Yes.
  • Ever fell in love at first sight: Yes. Once. Married him.
  • Ever been on a blind date: Yes.
  • Ever been cheated on: Yes.
  • Ever cheated: No.
  • Ever had sex in a public place: I went to Ball State University and during those years, lived life to its fullest.
  • Most humiliating moment: The first time I realized I was being cheated on.
  • Have you ever gone skinny dipping: Yes.
  • Played strip poker: Don’t remember. Probably. I went to Ball State University and during those years, lived life to its fullest.
  • Lied: Yes.
  • Paid for it: Yes.
  • Cheated on a test: No.
  • Run away from home: No.
  • Broken the law: Yes.
  • Ever ridden in a police car: Yes.
  • Been arrested: Technically, being pulled over for speeding is an arrest. Yes.
  • Been convicted of a crime: No.
  • Ever ridden in an ambulance: Yes.
  • Have you ever been in a car crash: Yes.
  • When was your last hospital visit: When I visited my mom after her last heart attack.
  • Ever broken a bone: Yes.
  • Ever been in a fistfight: No.
  • Had a medical emergency: Yes.
  • Gotten beaten up: Yes.
  • Ever seen a dead body: Yes.
  • Ever seen a ghost: No.
  • Been to Africa: No.
  • Have you ever seen a black swan: Yes, at the Fort Wayne Zoo.
  • What was your most embarrassing hair incident: Orange hair at High School graduation after a tragic sun-in incident.
  • What was the best costume you ever wore: Pimp.
  • Which of your accomplishments in the last year are you most proud of: Marrying Rich.
  • What do you hope to have accomplished in the next year: Defeating Prop 8 in California; Passing 3rd year law school.

What Would You Name Your…

Future home:



  • Go away, Jr.
  • Unwanted
  • Neglected

Future Pets:

  • Rhoda
  • Mary
  • Laverne
  • Shirley


  • Pussy Wagon


  • I like my name

People In My Life

Who are your best friends:

  • Rich, my husband
  • Tracey Tibbetts, my most enduring friendship
  • Phillip Rose, my law school friend/study buddy

Who you chat with most:

  • Cally, Don and Phillip

Name the person that you are friends with that lives the farthest away:

  • Ian Brown

Say a nice thing about the person you miss the most:

  • Trin was one of the most good-natured and sweet people I’ve ever met.

Craziest/silliest person you know:

  • Dan Barcus.

Do you get along with your parents:

  • Father: He wouldn’t be able to pick me out of a police line-up. So, that would be a no.
  • Mother: Favorite status alternates between me and my other two brothers depending on her mood.

What color is the underwear of the person next to you:

  • I am alone.

Who did you last tell you loved them:

  • Rich last night when he looked all tired and pouty and cute.

Last person you went to dinner with?

  • Phillip – on a study break.

What food does your mom cook better than anyone else:

  • Mom tries her hardest… but…

Who has been your friend the longest:

  • Gary Anderson

Does it feel nice that someone told you all this stuff about themselves:

  • Nicer than being punched in the face.

Does it feel nice that someone wants to know so much about you:

  • Not really. I’m thinking about stalker laws and about getting a restraining order.